Al-Anon is support groups all over the world that where people affected by alcoholism in one way or another meet to share experiences and help each other. These gatherings provided much-needed support and healing.
Al-Anon was founded in 1951 as an organization for providing support to friends and relatives of drunkards. Al-Anon was founded by Lois Wilson, also called Lois W, 16 years after her husband founded Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). She formed an organization for people similar to her, after confronting the hardships of assisting a recovering alcoholic in her own life. Financial contributions are done by the members of the group itself which keep it running. Support groups meetings help alcoholics' family members and friends to cope with the situation and treat their loved ones better, even if they haven't recovered yet.
These groups help their members know there are others like them.
Alcoholism Affecting A Family
Al-Anon sees alcoholism as a family illness, because it negatively affects both the drinkers and people around them. For an alcoholic to recover, they need the support of friends and family.
Some family members blame themselves for their loved one's drinking or may not realise why recovery is their loved one's primary concern. Support meetings can help deal about these issues in the best way while also making members understand that alcoholism should be treated as a family illness.
Alateen- Al-Anon Meetings Intended For Teenagers
Besides, Al-Anon has a group named Alateen organized specially for young people whose family member suffers from alcoholism.
Young people are permitted to meet with others of their own age at these meetings, making the experiences more similar and advantageous.
Al-Anon Group Advantages
Alcoholism has affected many people directly and indirectly and you will meet these people in this program. All are different, yet Al- Anon members have all had similar experiences in their struggles. The main advantage of Al-Anon is searching people who have had similar experiences to talk to. There are Al-Anon meetings available all across our country. Call us on 0800 772 3971 to help you find one near you.
What Happens During The Meetings
Al-Anon meetings are open for anybody who is affected by someone else's drinking habit. If you are worried about somebody's heavy drinking or if the drunkard's lifestyle somehow affects your life , Al-Anon will help you.
Since they are sure what will happen, some people don't feel free to go to the first meeting. What you must remember when you attend an Al-Anon meeting:
Al-Anon is a group that is unidentified
All the members of this group have had an encounter with an alcoholic in their lives
While members are encouraged to speak up and discuss their problem, they are under no obligation to do so
Meetings Offered Can Vary
There are meetings where you may not be helped but someone else might be.
Al-Anon is not an organization which is based on any religion
Meetings are focused on Al-Anon 12 step program
Al-Anon meetings are carried out under a slogan that encourages all attendees to "take only what they like, leaving the rest." Based on this formula the meetings concentrate on the sharing of experiences and the hardships of the attendees rather than giving them any instructions about what they should do.
As a rule, group meetings begin with reading of Al Anon 12 Step program. The Alcoholics Anonymous started the 12 step recovery program that is being used in the Al-Anon meetings. Members of Al-Anon can take help from a sponsor who can assist them to work through the steps and is available for any support needed during hardships of any kind just as the case is with Alcoholics Anonymous. The steps are as follows:
We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
Members can learn to accept alcoholism as a disease which they cannot control in others.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Pretty often members try to change or control their significant others and drive themselves to the verge.
When they understand they cannot do anything to change their loved one, people are now able to accept they can relax and let go for their peace of mind.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
It is important that members learn to let go.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
This is where the journey of self-discovery begins.
Attendees have the option of creating a list of how they could have wronged themselves or their loved ones with examples like threats issued, Etc.
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrong doings.
This is an examination of every item within the moral inventory of the member and will allow them to delve into every problem.
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
Spiritual help is recognised as one way through which they can be helped.
Humbly ask him to remove our shortcomings.
Members are assisted by this part of the 12 Steps to understand how they may have been dominating or judgmental toward an addict and how that is counterproductive.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Mostly, doing changes begins with yourself.
Lots of people tend to blame themselves for addiction of their significant others.
They must be willing and prepared to forgive themselves and to make amends.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
After you are willing to make amends, the following step is to act on it.
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
Going through the 12 steps is a process which will take time.
Slipping up is quite normal despite members already having made an inventory.
Step 10 identifies this is an ongoing process.
Through prayer and meditation endeavoured to improve our conscious contact with God as we perceived Him, praying only for learning His will for us and the strength to do it.
This is a personal, spiritual step that involves acceptance and comfort amongst the anxiety of recovery.
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
This stage appreciates the fact that the process is long and doesnt end after a while.
Encouragement is provided to members to support other members with their education.
What Is Higher Power
Members recognise there is a spiritual power that helps them to recover. Nevertheless, the term " higher power" is open to imply as one's own individual beliefs. Members of all religions and beliefs are accepted at Al-Anon and none is coerced to change their beliefs.